| Beyond The Power of Positive Thinking |
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Page 5 of 8 VITALE: Well another thing people wonder about is how long is this going to take? How long will it take to manifest the car, the relationship, the money whatever it happens to be? Well, I don't have any rule book that says it's going to take you 30 minutes or three days or 30 days. I think it's more a matter of you being in alignment with the universe itself. (END VIDEO CLIP) KING: We're back on this very special edition of beyond the power of positive thinking. Our guests are James Ray, president and CEO of James Ray International; Jack Canfield, the famed originator of the "Chicken Soup for the Soul" series; Dr. Joe Vitale, president of the Hypnotic Marketing, Incorporated organization and founder and president of the Hypnotic Marketing Institute; Dr. George Pratt is chairman of psychology at Scripps Memorial Hospital in La Jolla, California; and Jayne Payne is a therapist, social worker and a licensed chemical dependent counselor. We're going to talk about money in this segment. James, what's -- explain the power of partnerships. RAY: Well, I made a decision several years ago, over a decade ago, that really changed my life. I made a decision I wasn't going to spend high quantity time with people I didn't want to be. KING: This is in the financial area we're discussing. RAY: Yes. Financially or anyway -- in any area, actually. You know, because I looked around at the people I was hanging out with, and they weren't going the same places I was going, they weren't doing the same things I was doing, they weren't thinking the way I was thinking. So they were holding me back. So I made a decision to start spending more time with people that were like-minded and moving in the direction I was going. KING: Jack, explain the time management system. CANFIELD: Well, basically the system is divided into three parts. You divide your days into three kind of days. Focus days, free days and buffer days. And a focus day is 85 percent of your time is focused on the 20 percent of your life that produces 80 percent of the results. So each of us has something that we do naturally that we would call our core genius. For me it's teaching, speaking, writing, et cetera. The second kind of day is a free day. It's midnight to midnight with no work related activity. And by that definition, there are some people who haven't had a free day in three years. And what we now know from the studies is the people that take more free days actually end up making more money, because when they're off, that's when the creative ideas come forward, the inspirations for new products, new ideas, new services, new ways to be in the world. And the third kind of day is a buffer day. And that's when you are doing the things like delegating, preparation. You have to go out there and run around and do your laundry and get all that stuff done. But the point is, that we do have to have those days. So the key is, you want to have more focus days, more free days and less buffer days. And you want to have your schedule determine what kind of day it is, so you're not just responding to people, you're intentional. KING: Joe, how do we increase the speed of attaining financial career goals? VITALE: I think it is a couple of things. One of them is focussing on what you want, being very clear on the amount of money, making sure it's a stretch, but it's still believable. Another thing is to visualize it with feeling, making sure that that feeling element is there. And the third is to be taking action, and make sure that you're acting on the ideas. Because when your stated intention is that you want to have so much money, and start to take action for it, you will start to go in that direction. You'll start to have ideas, but your bargain is you have to act on those ideas or nothing will get done. KING: Doctor, is a personal coach a good idea? PRATT: I think we all need coaching. And I think we can all benefit from learning in new ways. I know that when you're thinking about coaching or using others as resources, even in the financial area, new ideas can present some very interesting opportunities. KING: Go ahead. I want to get an audience question, but go ahead, Joe. VITALE: OK, I just wanted to -- you asked about coaching. I want to point out how important it is to have a coach, because most of us are thinking within this little ball and nest of beliefs. We don't know what the beliefs are because they are what we think all the time. Somebody else, a coach on the outside can listen to you and feedback to you what your own thoughts are. KING: An objective. VITALE: Objective person, yes. KING: We have a question in the audience from Rob Christie (ph) -- Rob. QUESTION: Hi. Thank you, everybody. I'm a single man with a single income, and I love my job. I love what I do. But it puts me at a certain financial level, and are there any actual steps that you can recommend to help me obtain my goal of buying a house and, more importantly, buying a house where I want to live, which is at the beach? KING: James, is he thinking out of bounds? RAY: Well, you know, it really depends. You've got to get really clear. If that house is what you want, then you've got to, again, think, feel and act as if you are going to get that house. You've got to take the action. You know, I've worked with several individuals who couldn't come up with the money for the down payment, but they went ahead and took the action towards it, and by and large, they attracted $100,000, $20,000 here, $10,000 here from their friends and family. And they bought the home. So you've got to take that action. You've got to move forward, thinking, feeling, acting and knowing that you can do that. And you can make it happen. You really can. CANFIELD: My mentor was a man named W. Clement Stone, who worth $600 million when I worked for him. And he taught me this principle. And I was a teacher in Chicago making $8,000 a year. And I took a course with him. And he said I want you to set a goal that's so big that if you achieve it, you'll know it's because of what I'm teaching you. So I set a goal to make $100,000 in one year. Now, you know,they don't pay you more to become a good teacher. So I had no idea how I was going to do that, but I visualized it, I had an affirmation, I felt the feelings, I saw myself living in this $100,000 lifestyle. And to make a long story short, what happened was I started getting ideas. I would be in the shower and this inspiration would come, hey, you have a book. It gets 25 cents royalty every time it gets sold. If you sell 400,000 copies of that book, you'd make $100,000. Now, I didn't know how to do that. My publisher didn't know how to do that. But I started visualizing 400,000 book copies sold. And what changed it was my wife said one day that if we were a bookstore, we would make three dollars a book, then we'd only have to sell 33,000 copies. And by the end of the year we had a mail-order bookstore with 32 different books and tapes and we made $92,328. And I was still a teacher making $8,000, which gives me what? A $100,000 a year income. VITALE: Get the house. KING: We'll take a break and be back with more. Still to come, the keys to using emotional awareness to control your physical health. Don't go away. (BEGIN VIDEO CLIP) PAYNE: Relationship addictions are a loss of one's self that occurs when abandonment occurs. And what happens at the point of abandonment, when we're given messages, because we are sexual beings, we're given messages that say, you're not OK as a girl, you're not OK as a boy. And we grow up feeling that we're not OK as sexual beings, so what we do is we try to get those two parts to come together by getting into constant relationships over and over and over again. And so when those don't work, we eventually end up finally grieving the loss of the abandonment and we stop abandoning ourselves. (END VIDEO CLIP)  (COMMERCIAL BREAK) |
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