| Beyond The Power of Positive Thinking |
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Page 7 of 8 GANFIELD: Decide what you want. Believe you can have it. Believe you deserve it. Believe it is possible for you. And then close your eyes every day for several minutes and visualize having what you already want and feeling the feelings of already having it. Come out of that, and focus on what you're grateful for already. And really be -- enjoy it, OK? And then go into your day and release it to the universe, and trust that the universe will figure out how to manifest it. (END VIDEO CLIP) KING: James Ray, you say gratitude is the most powerful force. Does it work? RAY: It really is. Well, energy flows where attention goes. If you have a relationship, a romantic relationship, and you're grateful and you love him or her, you give them attention, right? If you have children and you love them, you give them attention. Attention equals love. KING: Why aren't we grateful? RAY: Most people are in love with their misery, because they're attending to it all the time. It's like a roaring bonfire and they're throwing another log on it every day. KING: Jack, what... GANFIELD: Focus on what you're grateful for. What it focuses you on is what you want more in your life. The reason you're grateful is it makes you happy. You're feeling good about it. So by focusing your gratitude on that, as you were saying every morning, you know, go through a gratitude list -- I spend seven minutes every morning writing down what I'm grateful for. KING: Joe, what is the danger of feeling desperate? VITALE: You're going to attract more desperation. The energy that you send out is the attractor. This is from my book, "The Attractor Factor." It's got to pull back whatever it is that you're feeling. You're going to get more of it. So if you're feeling desperate, the only thing that you're going to notice, the only thing that you're going to attract are more feelings, thoughts and situations that will make you feel desperate. KING: Perseverance is very important, right, doc? PRATT: Perseverance, persistence, developing new habits. KING: And that can be taught. PRATT: It can be taught and it can be practiced. And the more you practice it, the better you get. KING: We have another question from our audience, from Elizabeth Decosta (ph). Elizabeth. UNIDENTIFIED FEMALE: Hi, guys. So I've been working the principles and staying positive and all of that. My question is, how do you politely address those around you, whether they're friends or family, who don't support you or are not on the same path and -- well, actually turn down your goals, your dreams and your aspirations? Are you supposed to, like, remove them from your circle, or how do you... KING: Great question. I will go to Jayne first and then... PAYNE: The thing that I've found with working with this for many years is once you begin to have that attraction in your life, and once you begin to put that into motion and it begins to happen for you, an amazing thing happens. These things just kind of fall away from your life, because you're no long attracting them. So they kind of resolve themselves. They will just eventually dissipate because you're attracting something new into your life. And when we eliminate something out of our life, we replace it with something else. KING: James? RAY: The things we're talking about here, your peer group will change. When you choose to pursue your greatness, you'll represent the courage, in many cases, that other people don't have. And so you've got to be prepared for that. But it will, as Jayne said, take care of itself. It doesn't mean they're not good people. They're wonderful people, as I believe all people are, but they're not going in the same direction you are. And so -- you still love them, but I would recommend you don't spend high quantity time with people who aren't in the same mindset. KING: Jack, what's the importance of responding to feedback? CANFIELD: Well, basically, I teach that the way to improve is to solicit and respond to feedback. So I teach a question that my wife and I use once a week, and that I teach other people to use. On a scale of one to ten, how would you rate the quality of our relationship, or how would you rate the quality of this show or this product or service we have? Anything less than ten gets a follow-up question: what would it take to make it a ten? So one time I did this with my wife and she said six. And I said, wow what would it take to make it a ten? She said don't interrupt me when I'm telling a joke because you think you can tell a punchline better. She said your job is to put the kids to bed. I don't care if it is the NBA playoffs, I don't want to have to remind you. You don't remind me to get them up in the morning. She went on with about five or six other things. But now I have five ways I can improve my relationship. Most people don't ask for feedback because they are afraid of what they're going to hear. KING: What if you disagree? CANFIELD: You don't have to agree. You don't have to do it. But at least I know what, in her perception, would allow the relationship to go forward. And here's the other thing. Most people don't ask and the reason is they're afraid to hear it. I say, look, if you don't ask your wife or your children or whatever, they've already -- your wife's already told her mother, her girlfriend, the people at work, the people at the supermarket, the people in the hair salon. You're the only one who doesn't know. KING: Coming up in our final segment, how to make the start of your day the start of a new life. Don't go away. DR. SANJAY GUPTA, CNN MEDICAL CORRESPONDENT: Hello. I'm Dr. Sanjay Gupta. If you're enjoying tonight's LARRY KING LIVE, tune in Sunday at 10:00 p.m. I'm going to have an hour long special on the remarkable links between happiness and your health. You're going to learn about the latest research and how it could help you live a longer and happier life. I'm also going to tell you why laughter really might be the best medicine. All of that this Sunday at 10:00 p.m. Eastern. "Happiness and Your Health: the Surprising Connection." Meantime, also visit the specials website at CNN.com/happiness. (COMMERCIAL BREAK)  |
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